I recently realized something that I really wish I'd realized about myself a long time ago. Although it took a divorce and a bunch of other stuff for me to see just how co-dependant I really am. CM and I used to be, and it tends to happen to me again and again. I also think I know why.
As the oldest in my family, I always had someone around me that I needed to watch or take care of, but now, I read need to start focusing on me.